I'm gonna just throw this out there. Can I throw this out there? Don't care I'm going to.
I, for the longest of times, have been somewhat chastised for having been so young when I was married.
I was two months shy of being 19, so yes, still very young.
When I graduated high school my plan wasn't to get married. In fact, as I've mentioned here before, it was the furthest thing from my mind. I had many plans that were on my brain far from being married.
But I met my husband, and that changed everything. I knew that I loved him, I prayed about it asking if it was the right thing. At first I thought I would want us to date a long while before getting married. Then I realized that waiting so long especially when you are thinking about marriage, is a really bad idea.
Temptations definitely arise in that aspect. So after discussing everything with my Father in Heaven, I knew exactly what I wanted to do.
No it hasn't always been easy being married so young. I am the first of my friend group, and still am. That was definitely hard.
I've had plenty of people tell me how young and naive that I am/was. Tell me that I'm not enjoying the time that other people my age are. Point blank I've had a lot of people tell me their opinions.
For the record. I'm tired of people telling me how they think I should have run my life.
It's my life is it not?
It was my decision was it not?
You're right it was, and I don't need people telling me that I made a mistake when I've already been married for a year and a half.
And also I don't think that I've made a mistake. I have learned so much about myself in the past year and a half that I don't think I would have learned had I not taken the path that I am on. I've grown so much, been through a lot of trials, and have come out stronger each and every time.
And I'm happy. I'm happy what I'm doing, I'm happy being me, and I'm happy being where I'm at.
No I am not going to frat parties at college, having girly friend roomates, hanging out with different guys all the time, or out until 5 in the morning.
Want to know what I am doing?
Going to the temple, as an endowed individual, decorating my home (which is something I always have loved doing and have wanted to do), I have my own adorable dog, I'm working on my photography and getting lots of photo opportunities, I have an amazingly supportive husband, who I know always loves me. There isn't ever that insecurity about whether or not a guy likes me, or who I will go on a date with next, or how lonely that I am. That doesn't exist. I have a man at home who loves me, and we have tons of fun together. He has pushed me out of my comfort zone and made me branch out, which I don't think I would've been able to do had I not met him. He got me to try out for a play, which is something I have always wanted to do but never had the guts. Now I'm going to call backs for that play on Saturday, and I'm ecstatic. Even if I didn't make it, I'm glad that I was able to have the courage to try.
I see my friends when I want to, I go on girls trips with them, I get to go on vacation with my best friend, and I can stay out as late as I want if I truly feel like it.
I am really truly finding out who I am as a person in this big old world, and I like where I'm at.
I'm not a party girl, I hate having to be around fake people all the time, and that's not how it is here.
I think that people should really keep their opinions to themselves when they really don't know what they are talking about. They're not me. They don't know my life. They don't know what goes on or how I feel about the whole thing, and it is my life. Not theirs.
I don't care if you sit quietly (quietly being the key word) and judge my life how you want, but I don't need your opinion. Thank you.
I, for the longest of times, have been somewhat chastised for having been so young when I was married.
I was two months shy of being 19, so yes, still very young.
When I graduated high school my plan wasn't to get married. In fact, as I've mentioned here before, it was the furthest thing from my mind. I had many plans that were on my brain far from being married.
But I met my husband, and that changed everything. I knew that I loved him, I prayed about it asking if it was the right thing. At first I thought I would want us to date a long while before getting married. Then I realized that waiting so long especially when you are thinking about marriage, is a really bad idea.
Temptations definitely arise in that aspect. So after discussing everything with my Father in Heaven, I knew exactly what I wanted to do.
No it hasn't always been easy being married so young. I am the first of my friend group, and still am. That was definitely hard.
I've had plenty of people tell me how young and naive that I am/was. Tell me that I'm not enjoying the time that other people my age are. Point blank I've had a lot of people tell me their opinions.
For the record. I'm tired of people telling me how they think I should have run my life.
It's my life is it not?
It was my decision was it not?
You're right it was, and I don't need people telling me that I made a mistake when I've already been married for a year and a half.
And also I don't think that I've made a mistake. I have learned so much about myself in the past year and a half that I don't think I would have learned had I not taken the path that I am on. I've grown so much, been through a lot of trials, and have come out stronger each and every time.
And I'm happy. I'm happy what I'm doing, I'm happy being me, and I'm happy being where I'm at.
No I am not going to frat parties at college, having girly friend roomates, hanging out with different guys all the time, or out until 5 in the morning.
Want to know what I am doing?
Going to the temple, as an endowed individual, decorating my home (which is something I always have loved doing and have wanted to do), I have my own adorable dog, I'm working on my photography and getting lots of photo opportunities, I have an amazingly supportive husband, who I know always loves me. There isn't ever that insecurity about whether or not a guy likes me, or who I will go on a date with next, or how lonely that I am. That doesn't exist. I have a man at home who loves me, and we have tons of fun together. He has pushed me out of my comfort zone and made me branch out, which I don't think I would've been able to do had I not met him. He got me to try out for a play, which is something I have always wanted to do but never had the guts. Now I'm going to call backs for that play on Saturday, and I'm ecstatic. Even if I didn't make it, I'm glad that I was able to have the courage to try.
I see my friends when I want to, I go on girls trips with them, I get to go on vacation with my best friend, and I can stay out as late as I want if I truly feel like it.
I am really truly finding out who I am as a person in this big old world, and I like where I'm at.
I'm not a party girl, I hate having to be around fake people all the time, and that's not how it is here.
I think that people should really keep their opinions to themselves when they really don't know what they are talking about. They're not me. They don't know my life. They don't know what goes on or how I feel about the whole thing, and it is my life. Not theirs.
I don't care if you sit quietly (quietly being the key word) and judge my life how you want, but I don't need your opinion. Thank you.
2 comments:
what lamos! i know you did what you thought what right and what the Lord wanted you to do! there is no "perfect" age to get married- it is all based on what we need to learn and things like that. you are awesome! :)
I was talking to my sister on the phone about this just yesterday. No one has ever bluntly told me these things (sorry to hear if someone did to you!), but I feel a lot of the time like I can tell that they're scrutinizing me for getting married so fast and young and I was kind of getting hurt by it... I forget a lot that age doesn't mean a thing in the scheme of things and it doesn't do me any good to dwell on what others think my life should be, even if I myself imagined it to be that way before I got married. Jessica reminded me of that by telling me that marriage is what it is no matter how old you are. It's not going to get any easier if you wait any longer and positively you're not going to miss out on all the good stuff unless you give up under all of that outside scrutiny. And that certainly won't do anyone any good... Honestly, I'm still working on this mindset even though I realize I have an awesome life and I love my hubs. I hope I'm not the only one who thinks it's really hard to stop caring about what the world thinks... :/
Sorry about my long windedness! I'm just a little glad to hear the thoughts of people in a similar situation as me, if you will. Thanks for being so tuff. ;) I look up to you for making your life what it should be.
Post a Comment